Saturday, July 31, 2021

I hurry, I can still make Cheyenne.

This next blog post is about my favorite thing and my favorite place in the world: Standing in the pit, shoulder to shoulder in a sold out crowd, surrounded by other members of the Church Choir.

If you read my blog, you probably know that I’m a huge music person. I was raised on Alan Jackson and George Strait.

A couple years ago, my parents and I had front row seats to a Brothers Osborne show.

Concerts are engraved in my blood and it’s just who I am. 

I also love traveling and driving, and I’ll drive anywhere (almost*) to see a good show.

In 2019, I bought tickets to Cheyenne Frontier Days in Wyoming. While I am not a huge rodeo person, I do love me an Eric Church concert, and he played Cheyenne on Thursday.

Mind you, I bought those tickets two years, two jobs, and three houses ago. So it’s been a minute since I decided to go to the show.

It turns out that I got the fast pass, which let me into the venue before the doors officially opened. Remember that I bought these tickets like 700 days ago, so I don’t actually remember buying them.

But those tickets let me into the venue early. I had standing room only tickets, and when I got to the space on the rodeo grounds’ dirt floor, there was already a line of people surrounding the gate. 

Whatever, I figure. The view was amazing and I’m okay with being in the second row at a concert instead of the first.


It was also really fun for me to turn around when the gates to everyone else opened. I watched everyone else full-on sprinting to their spot.

Ha, ha.

My favorite spot on this planet is being in the pit and being surrounded by other fan club members. Particularly, I like the older couples that go to the shows. 

Two of those couples adopted me into their family that night. We had great conversations about music, concerts, work, travel and life.

Fan club members are the best people in the world.

And I’m almost always adopted by these people when they ask me the same question - are you here alone?

My favorite way to answer that question: You mean alone literally, or alone philosophy?

People laugh.

I’ve gotten used to the question and it doesn’t bother me anymore. The truth js that in life, I am not alone. But in the sense of vacations and concerts? 

I wish I had someone to experience this with, but at the moment, I do not. That doesn’t mean that I won’t ever have that. It just means that for now, I am alone, and I can either sit at home and feel sorry for myself (full disclosure - I don’t have a home at the moment) or I can do whatever the hell I want whenever the hell I want to do it.

So if Eric Church plays in Wyoming, I can go.

I love hanging out with these couples at shows because that’s what I want in life.

I want a love like that. 

I do not want someone who stares at their phone the entire time at concerts. I do not want someone who wants someone else.

I want what I want, and until I find someone whose presence is sweeter than my introverted solitude, I will travel alone and go to concerts alone.

I love doing life like this.

Stay tuned for part two!

Livin’ on Tulsa Time

 




We have a lot of catching up to do on thishereblog.

I’ve about had it with homelessness. Like, I’ve officially reached the capacity of what I can handle and I’m just not going to tolerate any more

And then I sprained my knee. 

It hurt. A lot.

And then, for a while, my car broke down.

You know what, guys? I am not having a record year at the moment. 

Full disclosure: I am writing this blog post from my phone while on the road, so once I get back to Kansas, I will update it with photos.

I decided to make the most of my homelessness by traveling on the weekends. Because, why not?

Last weekend, I went to heaven on Earth, also known as Pawhuska, Oklahoma, which is home of the Pioneer Woman.

(I also have to add in here that I read her blog before it was cool to read blogs.)

Anyway, I had a great time. The great thing about traveling solo if that you can find great prices at AirBnBs all over.

So, Oklahoma. I did not eat at the Mercantile, but I did go upstairs and get a pastry and a lemonade. 

Every other lemonade I’ve had since then has sucked in comparison. 

Tulsa is also very cool. I haven’t been here since college, and it definitely did not look the way I remembered it looking.

It’s changed a lot.

The best food I had there was avocado fries at some cute riverside cafe I found.

I mean, did I really need to eat a deep fried avocado with ranch dressing? No, no I did not, but that didn’t stop me.

🤷‍♀️

Oklahoma was a good time. The Mercantile is awesome and the Lodge is even better.

I’ll be back sometime, Oklahoma. 👍


Saturday, July 17, 2021

New Orleans food edition

 I'm not a huge fan of seafood, but I learned something on this trip.

I like seafood if it's fresh. 

In Kansas, I won't order it and I won't go near it.

But in New Orleans? You kind of have to try new things when you're in such a cool place. 

I tried a couple of crab cakes. One was phenomenal, one was all right.

I had fried calamari, which was excellent. I didn't have room for the meal after that appetizer.

Also, beignets are basically just funnel cakes, just in a different shape. Delicious.

And it just feels wrong to go to New Orleans and not order a Hurricane.

:)






Screaming across Lake Pontchartrain

I’m terrified of water, especially water that I can’t see the bottom of. Lakes and rivers and oceans are a no-go for me. 

It’s a phobia. 

I’m mildly to moderately afraid of heights, and won’t walk near a railing in a mall that overlooks floors beneath it. (Looking at you, Galleria in Dallas. That’s totally creepy.)

Yet taking a flight in a tiny airplane over Lake Pontchartrain didn’t bother me at all. I loved it and would do it again in a heartbeat.

I’m kind of weird like that. 




Monday, July 12, 2021

It's all related, folks. All of it.

The second thing I'm going to write about on my New Orleans trip is a session on photography that I attended.

I'm going to preface this by saying that I'm a pretty decent photographer, but I'm not great at it. I'm not even the best photographer in my family, because my brother and my Dad are both pretty stellar at it.

I went to this photography session at the last minute when I decided to change my schedule up.

That was a wise decision.

Writing will always be my first love in life, but photography is in second place. 

The conference speaker was a local New Orleans photographer who mainly shoots landscapes. His introduction was down to earth and humble. 

What the heck is he going to talk to a bunch of school district public relations people about? After all, he didn't even know that this profession existed until he got the phone call to speak at the conference. 

I can describe the happiest moments of my personal and professional life. In my professional life, the time spent in that session has to be on the top five list. 

The session started like this: By the presenter saying that to be a photographer, you have to be comfortable and confident with your body.

Let that sink in for a minute, folks.

After I thought about that, the session just kept getting better and better. Suddenly, in a room states away from my home, in a room full of strangers, I started to tear up.

The talk shifted from photography to music to mental health, to anxiety and depression, and then amazingly shifted back to photography after each of those topics was discussed. 

In fact, the topic of photography was never really left behind.

Like I said on social media after the session: That moment when you’re at a professional conference, attend a session on photography, and end up discussing mental health, art and music. 😍 It’s all related, folks. All of it. (Insert corny ‘Do I actually get paid to do this?!?’ joke here.)

I wish I could describe the magic in the air during this session. There are times in my life where words fail and I'm rendered speechless, and this was definitely one of those times.

A room full of artistic, creative people discussing art, mental health and music?

Sigh.

It was perfect.

If my cards fall where I want them to, I'm going to Uber to the photographer's art gallery before I leave town. 

There's just no way this can wait until my next trip to New Orleans. 

No way.

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The cool thing about attending a session on photography is that there were exactly zero tips on what to do with the camera and its settings.

People who aren't photographers are intimidated by large cameras (and by large, I mean cameras that aren't iPhones.) So many times in my life, people have told me that I take good photos because I have a good camera.

Yeah, that's not how it works. Placing a photographer's talent on the brand of their camera is like comparing an NFL kicker's talent to the brand of socks and shoes that he wears.

Yeah, the brand is there, but that's literally not the reason why something turns out good. 

So, there's perspective. There's creativity. There's getting down to a child's level, and looking through the lens to see from their perspective.

It's an art.

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I was in 4-H when I was little, and I always took part in the photography portion of the county fair.

When you look at the photos at the fair, you see photos of cool vacations that kids took with their families. There's the ocean pictures, Walt Disney World photos, some pictures of overseas (Eiffel Tower). Things like that.

The thing is, growing up, I did not go on those vacations. 

And to be honest, I kind of.hated the kids who did.

I remember being frustrated with life when I was little, because in my little brain, I didn't think could complete in photography with kids who went to cool, exotic places.

I remember my parents teaching me to look through the lens of my camera to find beauty. I remember them telling me that you don't have to travel to find it. They told me that if I looked close enough around me, I'd find the beauty that I wanted so badly to photograph for the county fair.

And then one. year, the universe aligned. After my Dad grew some impressive morning glories in our backyard, my childhood dog, Patches, a Collie and German Shepard mix, sat down in the middle of the morning glories and looked off to the side.

I don't remember telling her to sit in that spot. (Although, she was totally a kid dog. She would have juggled standing on her back paws if my brother and I asked her to do it.)

And boom, because I was in the right spot at the right time, literally in my backyard, that picture won Grand Champion at the county fair that year. 

I still have it in a frame at my house. When I get home, I'll snap a photo of it and include it on thishereblog.

I was so damn proud of that trophy I got for that picture, that I probably still have it somewhere.

I remember thinking when I was little, ha! Take that, you losers who get beach vacations and Disney World every summer.

There's beauty in your backyard if you just stop and look for it. 

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I'm just going to throw some quotes out there that I wrote down on my iThing during this session.

• "If you have permission to take a photo, you have permission to cross the line."

• "You cross the line. You insert yourself."

• "I"m so glad I have this moment. It means something to me."

• "It was an image that says you're struggling and your hurt is real."

• "I never read the lyrics, even though I recited them thousands of times."

• "I have days when I'm really happy, and I have days when I'm struggling."

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I waited to write this blog post until midnight the day of this photography session. I'm kicking myself for waiting to write about it, because I don't think I accurately caught how magical this moment was.

It's always wrong to wait to write. 

You'd think I'd know that my now. 

Oops.

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I wrote this post before I went to that art gallery.

I Ubered my way there one night. In that Uber, the driver and I had an excellent discussion of real estate, and how much it sucks when the sellers back out at the last minute.

(You mean that happens to other people, too?)

This might have been my favorite part of the trip.

Wow.

I don't know if it's socially acceptable to take photos in an art gallery, so I did not. I did, however, take a photo of the quote that was written on a blackboard.

I loved this place. 


In case you're wondering, the photographer is Frank Relle, and here is his website.

And no, I did not get paid to write this post. It was just that amazing that I felt like I had to write about it.

:)

Crescent City breeze

I've wanted to visit this city for a very, very long time.

Actually, in a former job, my publisher always told me that William Allen White would not want the word "very" used in his newspaper. Instead, he told me (somewhat jokingly), to use the word "damn" instead.

So, I've wanted to visit this city for a damn long time.

I was supposed to come to go to a journalism conference in New Orleans in September 2005. But as we all remember, a little hurricane named Katrina changed those plans, along with a lot of other people's plans, too. 

New Orleans has been on my bucket list for 16 years. 

I got the opportunity to visit this amazing city this week. (And am still here, currently. Very very happy face. I mean, damn happy place.)

Before I delve into the past few days of my life, I want to paint you a picture of what the last 12-24 months of my life have been like.

I lost my job.

I lost my mind.

I recovered from that.

I moved cities.

I got a job in my profession again.

And then I became homeless. 

So, the past 12-18 months of my life have not been the greatest thing ever. In fact, those months sucked. They sucked so bad, I can't even explain how much they sucked.

The suck never stopped. It just kept coming and coming and coming.

But the weird thing about life is that the universe has a weird way of balancing things out when things get out of whack.

Hi New Orleans!

So I found myself in New Orleans right now, attending a conference for public relations employees who work in school districts. It's a national conference, so there are a lot of folks from all over. 

So far, I've talked with other Kansas folks, Utah people, Nebraska, Texas, Pennsylvania, Virginia, Louisiana, etc. 

I saw this with all of my travel blog posts that I do, but I'm going to say it here again. I have no idea how many parts thishereblog will be. I'm just going to go with the flow here and see what happens. 

My first impression of this city? 

Wow. 

That's all I have right now, literally.

Just wow.

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Lake Pontchartrain

I will say that there's an Eric Church song to perfectly describe my situation.  

In fact, EFC opened his first song on his Double Down tour with a song called Knives of New Orleans. 

It's never been my favorite EFC song, but I've been listening to it since I landed here and it's definitely growing on me. 


Knives of New Orleans

Yeah, I'd give this last wrinkled dollar

In my pocket that I earned

With a hammer and vice

If I could undo some things

And grow me some wings

Fly out of this quarter tonight


Yeah, tonight, every man with a TV

Is seeing a man with my clothes and my face

In the last thirty minutes

I've gone from a person of interest

To a full-blown manhunt underway


I did what I did

I have no regrets

When you cross the line

You get what you get


Tonight, a bleeding memory

Is tomorrow's guilty vein

Your auburn hair on a faraway sea wall

Screams across the Pontchartrain

I'm haunted by headlights

And a crescent city breeze

One wrong turn on Bourbon

Cuts like the knives of New Orleans


I'm a ghost dodging bullets

In all of these alleys

Just looking for my getaway keys

Wrapped up in the night

Hiding out in plain sight

But this grip's getting tight around me


Ain't no getting out

That I can see

They'll take me dead

If they ever take me


Tonight, a bleeding memory

Is tomorrow's guilty vein

Your auburn hair on a faraway sea wall

Screams across the Pontchartrain

I'm haunted by headlights

And a crescent city breeze

One wrong turn on Bourbon

Cuts like the knives of New Orleans

Of New Orleans


What I wouldn't do

For just one more kiss

I'm all out of time

Honey, it's come down to this

I'm haunted by your hazel eyes

And this crescent city breeze

One wrong turn on Bourbon

Cuts like the knives of New Orleans


I did what I did

I did what I did

I did what I did

I did what I did


Love never dies.