Friday, March 21, 2014

Quiet.

I bought Susan Cain's book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. I started reading it, and then my mind exploded because of all the awesomeness it contains.

Tangent: This book is a little different. Well, different in that instead of buying an actual book, I bought the e-book version. Although this is a mortal sin in my world, there are some benefits to this method of reading.


Let's say you're exhausted from life, and you sleep from 8 p.m. to 1 a.m. and then 4:30 to 6 a.m. one day. Those 3.5 hours in-between are prime reading hours. It's cool that I don't have to have bright lights on in the middle of the night to read.

Tangent aside, Quiet is wonderful so far. I'm charging my book right now so I can read more of it later (ha, ha).

My favorite parts: 

Introversion--along with its cousins sensitivity, seriousness, and shyness--is not a second-class personality trait, somewhere between a disappointment and a pathology.

Introverts living under the Extrovert Ideal are like women in a man's world, discounted because of a trait that goes to the core of who they are.

If you're an introvert, you also know that the bias against quiet can cause deep psychic pain.


Now that you're an adult, you might still feel a pang of guilt when you decline a dinner invitation in favor of a good book. Or maybe you like to eat alone in restaurants and could do without the pitying looks from fellow diners. Or you're told that you're "in your head too much," a phrase that's often deployed against the quiet and cerebral. Of course, there's another word for such people: thinkers.

(She) knows she can hold her own when she needs to.

Introverts often work more slowly and deliberately. They like to focus on one task at a time and can have mighty powers of concentration. They're relatively immune to the lures of wealth and fame.

Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were at home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.

Shyness is the fear of social disapproval or humiliation, while introversion is a preference for environments that are not overstimulating. Shyness is inherently painful; introversion is not.

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